We thrive when we feel unconditional acceptance from the people around us. Even when we make mistakes, we want to be seen for who we are and not through the lenses of that one mistake. People who manage to see beyond the present moment and take a glimpse into our full experience - both of the past and future - are like a ray of light, refracting our colors and spreading them in all directions. The right connections in life truly set us free.
When surrounded by people who make us feel judged, our instinct to protect ourselves kicks in. The parts of us that are deemed good get the spotlight, but everything else gets buried underneath. We believe it is safer to show only what we think others want to see. Over time, this emotional compartmentalization leaves us feeling disconnected from our true selves, and unwanted from the world. We start feeling like aliens in both our bodies and the environment. It is only when we meet people who truly welcome us that we can truly embrace our full selves.
But how can you meet such people who set your colors free? It would help if you become someone who will see the best in others while looking at their experience with compassion. Compassion isn't just treating others with kindness. It is possible to do good deeds while feeling angry and judgmental. Compassion is about understanding life is complex and at the same time accepting you can never know the full extent of someone's experience, but nevertheless, you treat them as if their foundation is nothing but goodness.
One thing leads to another, and soon enough people who are like you will walk into your life. But even without them, you can do the work of de-layering and getting to know every side of your personality. Ask yourself:
- Which part of me do I hide in fear of being misunderstood?
- What side of myself do I reveal too often to please others?
- Which colors of my personality make me feel most alive?
The Beauty in Full Spectrum
Just like a rainbow only appears when all colors come together, your full self emerges when each part of your personality is allowed to shine. The beauty of authenticity is that it’s not about perfection—it’s about wholeness. With the right people in your life, you’ll find that your unique palette is something to be celebrated, not hidden.